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Changing in Christ

A little more than a month ago, a movie hit the big screen that attracted millions of people to the theatre. Prior to its official release it’s arrival was highly anticipated particularly by women. During the film’s first opening weekend it pulled impressive sales at the box office grossing nearly $30 Million Dollars!

The hype, reviews and acclaim were many as social media went wild on just how good the movie was. As I planned a “Girl’s Day” out with a really good friend of mine, naturally we felt it only made sense to see what all the hype was about! Sadly to say, we both walked away from the experience extremely bewildered.

I found the movie to be a bit repulsive, tacky and tasteless. Both my good friend and I were incredibly boggled by our reactions and why we were not just as giddy over the content as most.

Don’t get me wrong, I did laugh a time or two but it got far fetched at some points and I personally was turned off by at least half of the script. Personally, I certainly would not voluntarily watch it again.

Thereafter, several woman in my life asked if I had seen it. When I shared my view points of the film, I was looked upon as snooty, odd, crazy, and/or too deep.

After a slight confrontation over the matter with some other women just this past weekend, I further analyzed my viewpoints. Why did these women, (including some of the men that overheard the conversation) take offense simply over my personal opinion?

I clearly heard the spirit of The Lord whisper the only answer that makes complete sense, “The reason you did not like the movie is because of ME that’s working in YOU!”

Over the past 4 years my spiritual life and maturity has been a priority. I had to make it that way in order to fight to save my life. Along the journey and in this fight, I’m changing. I absolutely haven’t arrived but change is certainly obvious.

Things I use to do, I just don’t want to do anymore.

Places I use to go are no longer an option for me.

People I use to hang out with don’t fit in my circle any longer and we’ve drifted.

Things I use to hear that never bothered me before now grieve my spirit and I’m just not entertained by it anymore!

Evolving in Christ is inevitable when you are a Christian that refuses to compromise your position in Him for the sake of others.

You’ll begin to see things differently, go against the grain and become remote in your perspective. You may also become viewed as hypothetical especially if your changing is fresh in the eyes of those who knew you when….

When we desire to fit in more with people than we want to stand out in Christ, that’s called COMPROMISE! This blocks blessings, growth and potential. I don’t want this to be an option for me. I want ALL God has and deliberately work on fixing those areas in my life that I truly can control including what gets in my spirit through what I watch and what I hear.

We should always be working on our conduct in Christ being distinct. How else will those who don’t know Him get to know Him? We must represent and not become relaxed by having a greater regard for the world than our Savior.

If we as Believers find comfort without conviction with things that the world accepts, finds entertaining and approves of, we may have begun to plateau in our walk. Be separate from them is what God has called us to do!

Again, I am very much still a work in progress in the things of God. I try not to judge the actions of others while staying open to correction when I am out of line in my Christian journey. But I am grateful and recognize the changes that are coming over me that draws me deeper in Him still. This is my stance unapologetically.

In your walk with Christ what’s one big change you’ve noticed that you know you’re not going back to?

Have you endured ridicule over your strides to be more like Your Savior?

How do you handle the conflict with the world and other believers?

STFWO – Why Women Act The Way They do


The highly acclaimed internet broadcast of Straight Talk for Women Only is back!
We went off air for a couple of months for the holiday but returning in 2017 for a new season and exciting topics!

This month’s show featured Judy and Mary answering the question “Why women act the way they do!” May want to encourage some men to view this one for sure!

I will be back with my wise and beautiful co-hosts in March. In the meantime please enjoy this informative show and don’t forget to tune in next month!

Straight Talk for Women only is an internet broadcast aired and taped live every 1st Thursday of the month.

The program is hosted by: 

Victory Christian Fellowship

100 Wilton Blvd

New Castle, DE 19720

Access the live show and archives by visiting

http://www.stfwo.com

Blessings!

Sins of a Female Saint – Part 1 

The attraction was overwhelmingly intense. Like the power of 10 industrial size magnets I was being drawn in and could not stop it. In fact, after a time I didn’t want to stop it. I pursued and hunted after a single meeting and conversation that ignited something deep in me that apparently had died. Suddenly I felt alive and I wanted; no I needed more.

His smile, his features, his laugh, his smell were so completely intoxicating! His sense of humor was very similar to mine. We had so much in common and talked for hours…if and when we could. I had not been attracted to anyone this strongly and at this level in well over a decade and had forgotten what the experience felt like. My cheeks burned from blushing every-time I heard his voice. He would leave messages for me overnight on my work voice machine. I looked forward to them the instant they began. I found myself anxious to get up in the morning. Couldn’t wait to see if he was thinking of me overnight like I thought of him. He never disappointed. I listened to his messages frequently throughout the day.
I couldn’t sleep at night. Visions of him would not stop. I fantasizes during times that I knew I shouldn’t; when I should be working , studying, while in church and even while lying in bed next to my husband of nearly 10 years…

My marriage was severely broken. I was just 23 when I wedded, a babe in Christ and was told by the church mothers that we must stop living in sin. A little less than a year after meeting, we exchanged vows. It was not long afterwards that I began to discover that I didn’t take enough time to get to know him, to know myself and what God expected of me vs. the religious practices of man. Still I held on unsure, growing increasingly unhappy because I didn’t want to disappoint. I made God a promise and I was going to keep it by any means necessary. I prayed hard, long, and often. I got counseling too; still I faltered. 

The attraction came along at the most vulnerable time. Love, respect, intimacy, connection, and the will to keep trying in my marriage was dying for me. I was outgrowing my mate mentally and spiritually and the reality of it all was very painful. I was not keeping the facade together outwardly because a few that were close could clearly see the stark imbalance between us two. This new love interest reminded me often that I could still have those things I longed for again. 

For months, he became the only bright spot in my life for all hell began to break loose in my world. I was losing it all simultaneously. My health, my relationships, my home, my finances, my sanity, my way….. I ran to him for shelter, friendship then ultimately mental and physical comfort…..
This is my deepest, darkest and most painful confession. I once was a Christian Female Adulteress.

Even as I re-read the words above, nearly 10 years after these series of events,  it still doesn’t sound like me. My character, my beliefs, my position; I compromised them all with a single decision and I payed a deep price for it all. That price was the inability to move forward for an extended period of time. I believed that everything adverse that was happening to me was the result of what I did. Certainly I deserved it because I dishonor my vows. I drowned In thinking I didn’t deserve and I couldn’t forgive myself. I didn’t even know I needed to until just 2 years ago. 

Five years ago I conceived my first and only biological child. This happened out of wedlock and during a time when I walked away from God. I was extremely unhealthy spiritually and carried around a tremendous amount of pain, anger and guilt. I finally came to my senses for the sake of my child. Oh Lord I need thee!

I went for counseling with my son’s father upon his request. I only expected family therapy to learn how to co-parent with him. It’s all I wanted and nothing more. We were crazy about each other but with both of us being divorcees we never fully gave our relationship a chance. At the time,we had been apart as a couple for nearly a year. The Pastors who were assigned to help us clearly saw we were madly in love and they needed to seperate us to get to the bottom of our individual issues. 

So much came out in those sessions and I learned I needed to forgive myself for how I left my first marriage. When I finally released, it was such a heavy burden ejected from my soul. How I wish I would have done that earlier and saved myself 8 years of unnecessary mental anguish! Those family counseling sessions ultimately turned into pre-marital counseling. We married October 10, 2014. 

For me, this is the most intimate and embarrassing thing I have ever revealed. I know that I need to share for there are other women who suffer silently. Although men are more likely than women to commit adultery making this topic for them an accepted norm, women fail to be honest about the matter due to the harsh criticism we more than likely will subject ourselves to.

I personally am over how people may respond. I’ve beat myself up worse than any human ever could and sentenced myself to an 8 year term of absolute mental torture. Nothing hurts worse than that. Today I am completely set free and reconciled the most important relationship in my life; my bond with my Lord, my Savior, my Redeemer, Christ Jesus.

By-the-way, If you are wondering what ever happened to the man I fell for .. Well, he is the one I married. This is my RealBoldTruth! 

Soulful Sunday – Pastor Dorothy L. Bell


Have you ever asked yourself what could possibly be holding you back from reaching your fullest potential in life? Seems like no matter your countless efforts, favor consistently evades you?

Consider taking your eye off of external factors for a moment and do a self-inventory; NOW!
My Women of Wisdom author this month is Pastor Dorothy L Bell. She penned a concise and impactful book entitled “Arise…Unpack….Live “Now”!

This read comes at such an appropriate time in my life personally. As I effortlessly strive towards the destiny that my God has shown me, the principles laid out in this book cannot be avoided along my journey.

As a representative of Christ I must rid myself as much as possible of things that are not of him. So here we go!

The instructions commissioned in these pages are bold, just the way I like it! Not for the thin-skinned by far! You want to be successful in your God-given talents and gifts, then consider this as I have!

Arise – Recognize, take heed, and commence to owning up to your stuff! You guilt your shame your past, your blames. Your greed and especially your selfish needs. 

Unpack – Those matters that really hold you back and stop carrying them around like some precious treasure! They are not resourceful and certainly not God’s best for your life! You can’t move forward effectively until you throw these things out of the luggage of your soul!

Live – The first two can be the most difficult parts but once they are REALLY dealt with through the Word of God, Counseling and regular inventory to assure you are won’t Re-pack what you unloaded, NOW it’s time to go forth!!

I can’t give away all the detailed nuggets of this book. The above is just a synopsis of what I got out of it. Just good Godly wise wisdom! You have to get your own copy to fully understand. It can be read in less than a couple of days and will be life changing!

Pastor Dorothy L. Bell
 Pastor Dorothy L. Bell is the CEO and founder of Woman2WomanMinistries and has been serving the Lord diligently for the past 32 years. To order your copy of Arise…Unpack…Live… “Now” contact her directly by e-mail at womantwowoman@comcast.net or on her FaceBook page @Woman2Woman. Don’t forget to visit her website for more inspiration at http://www.womantwowoman.com.

Happy Sunday!

Women of Wisdom – Ms. Antoinette Johnson





Age in no way defines who I am. The hair may be thinner, the neck not as tight as it used to be but there is a joy of accepting myself for the woman God has purposed me to be.  I continue to be thankful for the blessings and the trials of over 68 years of life!

 
As we grow older, we should begin to focus not only on the now but instead the focus is on being Heaven bound.  This world is not our final home.  If we know Christ, we know we have “an inheritance that will never perish, spoil or fade –kept in heaven for you”. (1Peter 1:4).

 
Remember to never diminish God’s purpose for your life.

 

Time management is important as we reach our senior years. Remember to – slow down, breathe and reflect on life.  Ephesians 5:15-17, “15 Be very careful, then, how you live—not as unwise but as wise, 16 making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil. 17 Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the Lord’s will is.

 

Ecclesiastes 3:8
 
Agree to projects based on your priorities and desire to do God’s will in your life.

 
Take time to smell the flowers.  Dance!! Embrace the life God has given you here on this earth.

 


Encourage the younger women

 
Titus 2:3 Older women1 likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.

 
1 Thessalonians 2:8

 

The older women must take responsibility for teaching younger women, or it probably won’t happen. Many younger women don’t respect older women and what they have to offer. While many older women are self-absorbed and lack interest in women outside their family and church circle. There is much Godly wisdom and knowledge that can be shared between the two generations.  It should be a reversed mentoring opportunity.  An excellent example of reverse mentoring in the bible is found in the story of Ruth and Naomi.


 


Deeper Appreciate of taking care of the Mind, Body and Soul

 

I find that it is a priority now to care for my physical and mental health.  By way of nature, the body begins to deteriorate in some areas (e.g. Bones). It becomes important to stay in good physical shape in order to keep the heart beating, the mind sharp and the bones and muscles strong.
1Cor 6:19-20 tells us our bodies are a temple that should be available to serve God.

 

Thank you, God that I am fearfully and wonderfully made Psalm 139:14 – even as I age – thank you that you continue to watch over me.
 

 


Don’t allow past mistakes or people to hold you hostage

 

Face those past mistakes in your life and be honest…confront the issues….ask for forgiveness but then ..move ON!

 
It’s time to reverse your mentality and look at your mistakes, and failures from a positive perspective.  What didn’t kill you made you stronger by the grace of God!

 

Luke 8:39

 
Philippians 3:13 “Brothers and sister, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead.
  



Lastly, focus on how you want to be remembered.  Can you imagine if you had to write your own obituary…wow! What would it say?

 

 

 

Women of Wisdom – A Cheryl Colman Poem

This month on RealBoldTruth, several women will be featured here to depart wisdom, exhortation and encouragement. These are my Women of Wisdom! Sixty+, settled, saved and seasoned!

Our kick off is an original poem penned by Sister Cheryl Coleman:

Women of Worth

You are a woman of worth
Even though you weren’t placed here first
Now don’t take that placement so lightly you see
God has placed beautiful gifts deep within thee
You have been called by God from above
To do His will, to answer His call
Your scars and wounds display you test of time
Has been your elevation for God’s Devine
Now you’re ready, the time has finally come
For you to step into the millennium
One by one, two by two
You know exactly what to do
Release those gifts placed deep inside
To be a blessing to all mankind
No need to worry or stagger back
God ‘s got your front, He’s got your back
You have everything you need, intact
God made no mistake, that’s a fact
So go forth and let your light shine
Be a glory to God, Gods glory in His eyes

Cheryl Coleman

08.23.00

STFWO – Aging with Grace

Hi Readers!

I had a blast on this month’s Straight Talk For Women Only talk show! This has been my 5th taping and time is flying fast!!!

The topic for July is packed with Godly advice on how us ladies can age with grace in our 40’s, 50’s and 60’s! 

We live in a society so filled with vanity, obsession over youth and looks. However, if you look around, beauty is defined in every age and stage of life in mind, body and spirit. 

The topic of aging is very sensitive to us women and we don’t discuss it enough. Instead we internalize the fear of growing older. This show helps to dispel many myths and eases anxiety about what to expect. 

I had the distinct pleasure to sit down with a couple of beauties that I absolutely admire!  They gave a great deal of nuggets that I took note of right away as I encouraged the viewing audience who may be approaching 40.
Regardless of the season of life you are in, embrace it with confidence knowing that God has graced you for such a time as this!

Straight Talk For Women Only

Victory Christian Fellowship, New Castle DE

Airs live 1st Thursday of every month

For more show details and access to archives, visit the website at http://www.STFWO.com
Blessings!