Tag: aging

Soulful Sunday: What’s REALLY Holding You Back?

As weeks create months and months turn into years, decades are formed and reality becomes evident. We are aging and are often faced with “THE” question directly or indirectly; Are we making the most out of the life we have left?

This thought feels irrelevant in our adolescent years when we feel invincible for it appears that there is plenty of time to think on these things later; much later…

Then one day we wake up, look in the mirror and 40, 50, 60,70 and beyond are upon us. Our stark reality is where did the time go and are we living a purposed filled life? You know, the one that God has called us to before we were ever in existence.

If you can say without hesitation that you spend your days doing the thing God put you on this earth for, I certainly commend you! However, if that’s NOT you and you are in those age categories I mentioned above, What’s Holding You Back?

The level of true purpose I am alluding to has nothing to do with that job you slave at every day to earn a living. You can confirm that this statement is true if you feel that something is missing and deep inside, you’re unfulfilled. I’m talking about your primary reason for being. You gift, your talent, that business idea, that ministry, that book, that masterpiece that only YOU can deliver and birth to the world. 

It’s that thing you have been seeing repetitively in visions or dreams. That idea that gives you chills when you ponder on it but quickly dismiss with a plethora of old and tired excuses..

That hurt

That shame

That lack of confidence 

That comparison to others

That envy of your Brother

That previous failure

That finger pointing and blaming

That lack of Faith in your Lord and Savior 

For many reading this, What’s REALLY holding you back from embracing your destiny is directly connected to a matter you have not officially dealt with in your past. If you don’t face it, you will end up like countless others; leaving this earth and taking what should have been shared with the world with you. Now that’s really selfish! RealBoldTruth!

I recently had to deal with an extremely painful area of my life that I have been suppressing for several decades. I really thought I had it under control especially as of lates. I’ve discovered who I am in Christ, learned how to look to Him and trust Him more, have been in constant fellowship to assure I don’t go back to old ways of thinking and I’ve been serving and giving faithfully in ministry. Yet this soul striping thing keeps coming up and I grew sick of it! I couldn’t put my finger on why I’m still struggling with something that should be so old but knew it was the source of what has been holding me back from all God truly has for me.

I was recently put in a setting and was given the option to become vulnerable and transparent about this thing and my flesh felt reservations. However my spirit prevailed by telling me it’s now or never!

I ultimately shared a very private battle with the most unlikely person and found out she had struggled with the very same thing! I was in complete shock for she seemed to have it all together. She gave me a name for “my thing” and it’s called “Rejection ” she shared with me some tools and specific word that I started using right away and a release I experienced almost instantly!

Initially I was so very uncomfortable being this exposed but it has been way past time to “Tell The Truth and Shame The Devil!” I want my freedom more than my security of holding on to this dead stinky thing that clearly robs me of so many possibilities!

I challenge you today to think on these things. What have you NOT faced, NOT confessed, NOT healed from, buried alive kicking and screaming that will NOT die? It’s the very thing that is stopping you from spending more energy cultivating you “Gift” than dwelling on what won’t change. 

God has so much more for you but you’ll never experience the totality of His blessings if you don’t give this thing up! Stop lying, to yourself, and listening to the voice of the enemy more than the voice of the Lord! 

Do it NOW, before YOU and IT simply become a memory.

Until Next Time, Happy Sunday!

Women of Wisdom – Ms. Antoinette Johnson





Age in no way defines who I am. The hair may be thinner, the neck not as tight as it used to be but there is a joy of accepting myself for the woman God has purposed me to be.  I continue to be thankful for the blessings and the trials of over 68 years of life!

 
As we grow older, we should begin to focus not only on the now but instead the focus is on being Heaven bound.  This world is not our final home.  If we know Christ, we know we have “an inheritance that will never perish, spoil or fade –kept in heaven for you”. (1Peter 1:4).

 
Remember to never diminish God’s purpose for your life.

 

Time management is important as we reach our senior years. Remember to – slow down, breathe and reflect on life.  Ephesians 5:15-17, “15 Be very careful, then, how you live—not as unwise but as wise, 16 making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil. 17 Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the Lord’s will is.

 

Ecclesiastes 3:8
 
Agree to projects based on your priorities and desire to do God’s will in your life.

 
Take time to smell the flowers.  Dance!! Embrace the life God has given you here on this earth.

 


Encourage the younger women

 
Titus 2:3 Older women1 likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.

 
1 Thessalonians 2:8

 

The older women must take responsibility for teaching younger women, or it probably won’t happen. Many younger women don’t respect older women and what they have to offer. While many older women are self-absorbed and lack interest in women outside their family and church circle. There is much Godly wisdom and knowledge that can be shared between the two generations.  It should be a reversed mentoring opportunity.  An excellent example of reverse mentoring in the bible is found in the story of Ruth and Naomi.


 


Deeper Appreciate of taking care of the Mind, Body and Soul

 

I find that it is a priority now to care for my physical and mental health.  By way of nature, the body begins to deteriorate in some areas (e.g. Bones). It becomes important to stay in good physical shape in order to keep the heart beating, the mind sharp and the bones and muscles strong.
1Cor 6:19-20 tells us our bodies are a temple that should be available to serve God.

 

Thank you, God that I am fearfully and wonderfully made Psalm 139:14 – even as I age – thank you that you continue to watch over me.
 

 


Don’t allow past mistakes or people to hold you hostage

 

Face those past mistakes in your life and be honest…confront the issues….ask for forgiveness but then ..move ON!

 
It’s time to reverse your mentality and look at your mistakes, and failures from a positive perspective.  What didn’t kill you made you stronger by the grace of God!

 

Luke 8:39

 
Philippians 3:13 “Brothers and sister, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead.
  



Lastly, focus on how you want to be remembered.  Can you imagine if you had to write your own obituary…wow! What would it say?

 

 

 

STFWO – Aging with Grace

Hi Readers!

I had a blast on this month’s Straight Talk For Women Only talk show! This has been my 5th taping and time is flying fast!!!

The topic for July is packed with Godly advice on how us ladies can age with grace in our 40’s, 50’s and 60’s! 

We live in a society so filled with vanity, obsession over youth and looks. However, if you look around, beauty is defined in every age and stage of life in mind, body and spirit. 

The topic of aging is very sensitive to us women and we don’t discuss it enough. Instead we internalize the fear of growing older. This show helps to dispel many myths and eases anxiety about what to expect. 

I had the distinct pleasure to sit down with a couple of beauties that I absolutely admire!  They gave a great deal of nuggets that I took note of right away as I encouraged the viewing audience who may be approaching 40.
Regardless of the season of life you are in, embrace it with confidence knowing that God has graced you for such a time as this!

Straight Talk For Women Only

Victory Christian Fellowship, New Castle DE

Airs live 1st Thursday of every month

For more show details and access to archives, visit the website at http://www.STFWO.com
Blessings!