Essence of a True Blogger

  

 
I have been blogging for close to 1.5 years now.  I’ts been an amazing journey!  I have discovered some hard but vital truths towards mastering the art and trying to become successful in my craft. I am persuaded that writing is a gift given to me by God. In January of 2015 I became brave enough to act out on my calling.  It was NOT easy by far to develop a reading audience whom I could effectively reach, minister to and share my experiences. Within the first 365 days I was extremely discouraged, felt like quitting and often times did.  By the close of the year I found renewed hope with just 18 followers of which I knew only three or four were truly reading.
 
I have read  my share of articles on how to grow traffic to your blog site.  I think those I have encountered eliminated some harsh realities that cannot be overlooked if you are one with hopes to increase your readership.  So here are my 2 cents on the Essence of a True Blogger.

  


1)  Bloggers cannot be selfish!  If you are spending 100% of your time writing and are not stopping to appreciate the work of your fellow bloggers,  you are setting yourself up to fail. Successful writers are also readers.  Carving out time in your day to read the work of other bloggers is essential.  I do this most days and have created a list of my favorite bloggers so that I don’t miss their most recent posts.  I try to aim for 15-20 minutes daily if I can, but never go more than a week without stopping to consider the work of others. I find that I also become encouraged, discover something new or even run across something that makes me laugh.  It is all so timely! My daily medication indeed! You say you don’t have time? What if your followers consistently said the same? Make the time!
  

 



2)  Bloggers must follow other Bloggers!  If you are advertising your blog to just your family and friends and think they are automatically going to support you, think again!  I am connected to nearly 500 people on Face Book alone and WordPress counts those you are linked to on social media as “Followers”. That is such an inflated number! Out of those nearly 500, again only a few visit and really support my blog. People live in a microwave society and I believe the love for reading is becoming a dying passion in this current generation.  A  microwavable society we live in for certain where people want things fast and don’t have time for a 10 minute good read.  Hook up with like-minded people which are other bloggers who are crazy about reading and writing. Most will be strangers but not for long!  I have met some really cool people in this little blogging world of mine! They follow me and I certainly follow them back!
 
 
 

3)  Don’t get the big head as a Blogger!  I have noticed that some bloggers reach a level of success with their audience then forget their humble beginnings.  They won’t read other blogs, are constantly encouraging you to read other articles they have written by sharing a link with you, won’t respond to a comment and won’t follow back.  This one is my pep peeve.  I don’t expect every blogger that  visits me to automatically follow me back but there is a certain level of blogging etiquette that should just be!  If someone takes the time to read, like and then comment to something you have written, show your appreciation by responding. It’s just the right thing to do! I vow no matter how many followers I accrue that I will never forget how I felt 365 days after starting and still having such a minimal audience.  Today I am truly grateful and will forever remain!

 

 

  If you are wondering why you can’t build an audience ask yourself, are you a selfish blogger?  This thing is about give and take. You can’t get absorbed in your own agenda with tunnel vision! None of us can reach success without one another.

 

   

 
   

 

If we remain selfish in our pursuit as writers I think we set ourselves up for failure ultimately. A good writer must read!  If we are not reading (or at least acting like we are by pushing the like button periodically for others) then what are we truly doing here?
Just food for thought and some REAL TALK!
 

 

Remember that encouraging sound coming from your cellular device with a notification that some one began following you, left a comment or liked your post? Those were the sounds that initially gave us motivation to just keep writing. Someone still needs that and you need to keep providing it! We write for others so don’t forget them in your journey towards creative success.
We may not agree on each other’s written dialect, traveled paths or faith choices but our connecting commonality is our undeniable gift of creativity and passion. With a thought and stroke of a pen (or keyboard in most cases), we conjure up inspirations for others to consider. We owe it to one another to support this artistry and not get the big head when we feel we have “arrived.”
 
 
Think on these things and share if you find relevance. That is all I have to contribute to this matter.   Now run share that…

  
   
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58 thoughts on “Essence of a True Blogger”

  1. Hi Chanel,
    You and And I are like minded bloggers I blog about blogging Tips also. I also like to be followed.
    If you are interested in a follow for follow, let me know.
    By the way, I have many friends here.
    Janice

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  2. Hello Chanel,

    thank you for sharing your experience and tips. I am diligent to visit others, read/like their posts and leave thoughtful pertinent comments. I am not on twitter, Facebook ect simply because I feel I don’t currently have the time to negotiate added learning curves and maintain my presence on these platforms. I recognise I will have to eventually but right now I am such a perfectionist and spend so much time writing my posts, I can hardly keep up with my current schedule.

    Congratulations Chanel on what you have achieved.

    I guess if I continue to be diligent there will eventually be a breakthrough.

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    1. You said the key action; remain diligent!! Everything else will follow! Social media is the tool us writers can’t avoid if we want to market our work. It can be a full time job at times but a necessary evil of sorts! I avoided for the longest but kept hitting a glass ceiling. I have my highs and lows with visitors, followed and more. Most who follow me are other bloggers but the life span of a blogger is about 6 months to a year then people quit. When they give up on themselves they also give up on you! But those who are in it to win it find ways to be content either way and keep going! #noquitting😊

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  3. I think it all comes down to genuinity… I like posts that I find interesting or thought provoking, even if I do not agree with everything in it. Following is more selective because it’s important to be able to get the blog posts in the reader which we look forward to whereas otherwise there would have to be some real screening done to read the blogs that we actually want to “follow”… I guess this is an ongoing dichotomy regarding this…

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    1. Hi there! It is a personal choice but by reading other articles similar to mine the advice within is pretty consistent. It works! I also have found that the people I attract to my blog are like in mind. They write inspirations, motivations, things that are positive uplifting and sometimes cute. I haven’t had any concerns with following anyone back. I check the theme of their blogs, make sure they have something to say and content is clean and I follow. Now to get on my personal list of preferred bloggers takes other requirements! Lol! This blog continues to grow so I feel for sure I’ve made the right adjustments so had to share with others. Thanks for reading and Happy Blogging!😆

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      1. That’s great ☺ How do you keep up with your favorites with so many blogs in the reader? I’d love to read that post and get some tips 😄

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        1. You make a list. I follow a lot of people but I have a hand full of regulars that I don’t want to miss. WP allows you to make special list of followers or specific categories you want to read about. I’m not good at providing tech directions but you can google making Wp lists and should stumble on the information. Let me know if this helps at all.

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          1. Omggg it worked! I googled it! This is so awesome I didn’t even know this existed. I’m really excited now! 😀 I can follow blogs without drowning. Thank you so much for telling me about this 😀 I’m like dancing and jumping right now 😀 🙂

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            1. YES YES YES!!! I was wondering if I was explaining it right! This should open a whole new dimension for you! So much easier to manage! Follow as many as you want but seperate those you just don’t want to miss! It’s awesome! See we help each other!😁

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              1. Today I read two sides of the same issue and I’m looking forward to sharing this newly acquired knowledge 😀 This totally opens up a new dimension in the blogging experience!!! I was wondering why they didn’t have something like that for so longgg!! It was right there under my nose all this time! :’) This is awesome! 😀

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  4. I love this post! It is the truth you share for us bloggers. I would like to say that I don’t just click the like button. I actually read the post. It is not being honest if you click the “like” button and have not truly read the post. Do you really “like” the post? Also, what are you “liking?” You may not agree with what is truly written and it may go against your values. Not into just clicking the “like” button. I do that for the images on Facebook and Instagram. I agree that we should support one another. There are many bloggers that have contributed to me by encouragement, information, motivation, etc. Reading is truly a “suffering” art. We are a microwave society and many people don’t take time or want to take the time to actually read a thing. I also follow fellow bloggers. I have plenty of interests so I follow those that have information. But also to encourage the different arts. Just because I am not a painter doesn’t mean I can support the blogging painter. I enjoy the art. I am working on the time management to read my other bloggers. However, because I do read them and make a substantive comment, sometimes it takes a little while to get to all the posts. I am here though and support my fellow bloggers! Thanks.

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    1. I agree with you and find it slightly discouraging to think people are “liking” posts without reading them. I suspected this when I receive “likes” 1 second after posting. I thought how can someone have read this so quickly. Then there was another instance when a particular blogger I’d visited and left comments and likes, subsequently visited and “liked” several consecutive posts even ones which had not been popular.

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  5. This a great post and true words to live by. I’m coming up on two years in the not so distant future and I try not to forget my humble beginnings. Bloggers that don’t respond to comments after you leave two or three quickly get the unfollow from me.

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  6. I am realizing that you are correct. Not many people want to take time to read :(. I am encouraged by every comment and like! For that reason, I try to leave comments when I feel “touched” by a post. My PET PEEVE, as well, is when bloggers do not bother responding.

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    1. Rose I’m with you! As a blogger I’ve come along way in a little more than a year. I would not have the support I do without my fellow blogging community! I’m grateful and will always make the time to give back😊

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  7. Great post, Chanel. I’m so new to blogging and haven’t had time to check out all the bells and whistles yet.With a very busy life, I mainly find time to engage with other bloggers on Saturday and Sunday, and this truly brings me joy. I do take time each day to read blogs and to comment, but as you know, I sometimes forget to reply to every comment. 🙂 Continue to write, encourage, and inspire.

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    1. I know what you mean! This past week has been so demanding on my time so I have slipped a bit with my support but I get back on track and purpose to do it when I can. That’s all we can and should all do is try especially when we get joy out of others giving back when we write! It’s an awesome journey and privilege!

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  8. Great post 🙂 Great rules you set for yourself 🙂 When I started blogging, I did not start following other blogs until people started visiting my site and started to hit the like button for my posts and that is how I started to follow other blogs including yours 🙂 Although, I am not shy in the real world, when it comes to blogging I start to feel shy until people end up liking one of my blog posts or leaving a comment etc. Anyway, keep up the great work as always 🙂

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    1. Thanks for sharing some of your personality traits! So interesting! Now John I am the opposite. Bold in my writing space but shy in person. Well some would disagree with that because I have worked in my outward persona over time. But for some reason I still see myself as shy since I’ve been in that realm most my life. Loving the new bolder me these days but still not quite use to her! Lol!

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  9. Totally agree Chanel, especially about commenting. We all know how hard it is to develop true “followers” and readers, so I’m not sure why people don’t respond to comments. It’s such a simple thing. Great read!

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    1. You are more than welcome! I see you are new and one of the reasons I did not hesitate to start following you! I have more requirements than just being new like inspirational, thought provoking and even clean humor. I was initially drawn by your title and the blog you wrote about “My Why”. You have a voice so don’t give up on this journey. I’ll check back and give you a push if needed! Welcome to the exciting world of blogging.😇

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  10. Hi Chanel,
    I sent this article from Heart Life Ministries from their web-site: I thought this article was perfect for what you was sharing in regards to sowing your time (reading) into another person’s blogs. You Go Girl!
    Blessing’s To You!
    Pastor Mary

    Sowing Into Another Man's Dream!
    Posted on February 20, 2009 by admin

    “I dreamed a dream,” Pharaoh told Joseph. “Nobody can interpret it. But I’ve heard that just by hearing a dream you can interpret it.”
    Joseph answered, “Not I, but God. God will set Pharaoh’s mind at ease.”
    So Pharaoh said to Joseph, “You’re the man for us. God has given you the inside story—no one is as qualified as you in experience and wisdom. From now on, you’re in charge of my affairs; all my people will report to you. Only as king will I be over you.” Gen. 41: 15-16;39-40 (MSG)
    We can go to church and hear a message and then we can go to church and hear THE MESSAGE! Such was the case when I went to a revival at my church at the time, and heard young Dwight Pate preach THE MESSAGE entitled “Sowing into Another Man’s Dream!”
    I was at a place in my life when I felt cheated, even betrayed – and was not happy about it. To make a very long story short I had returned to work teaching after being out for fifteen years – I had been already been cut from one school due to being the low woman on the totem pole – and now at another school having gone through the year, was facing the same victimization of being the person with the lowest seniority – which meant I got the worst classes and the worst students. I was teaching at a Hispanic school, my Department Chair was African American and all the other teachers in my department were White except for one other African American teacher and myself. Yes, I pulled the race card – feeling as if my African American Department Chair should have helped a “sister” out instead of giving me all low level Freshmen with a late start program.
    I went to church expecting to hear a word from the Lord (isn’t it funny that no matter how bad our attitude we still expect God to bless us when we come to church). Well I did hear a word – and it was a life changing word! For that night I heard the story of Joseph preached as I never had before. The preacher spoke of Joseph and his dreams – but emphasized that Joseph learned a secret – when he figured out that his dreams were on hold- he began to sow into the dreams of those around him – to make them happen!
    I’m sure you can tell where this is message went – Potiphar, the jailer, finally Pharoh – each one – Joseph labored with all his might to make sure that their dreams were fulfilled! And jumping to the end of his story – finally Joseph found that in the process, God fulfilled his!
    I immediately went back to work, repented to my Department Chair – told her whatever she wanted me to do, I would do… the rest is history – it was not long before God began to move me up the career ladder and redeemed my time – in less than two years, I became an administrator and have been one for over seventeen years now!
    In less than three years back on the job God gave me favor and I increased in position over people that had been working for nearly twenty years, and at each juncture I have applied this Joseph principle of Sowing Into Another Man’s Dream, for it was not my dream to “run a school, or a program” , but it was my dream to raise my children to adulthood successfully and God has done just that!
    God Bless,
    Maria

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    1. Glory to God! Pastor Mary this was an awesome article and I didn’t even look at supporting other blogs as an act of sowing into others dreams on a larger scale. But so accurate! If I can motivate another blogger to keep going with a comment or “Like” then that act is sowing! I’m so proud to do that for others as YOU and a few more have done for me especially in my humble beginnings 😊

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  11. I posted something along these lines last week. I totally agree we need to support and encourage one another as bloggers. It’s at its best when it’s a true community and I have been blessed so much by posts I’ve read and people I’ve “met” through blogging.

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  12. Here’s some real talk! Prepare yourself, okay?!

    It all boils down to whether we’re centered on self or the Lord, doesn’t it? I steward a blog for Him, and avoid referring to it as mine, for it actually is not. He lead me to start writing, then months later, to create a blog site and put the writings on it.

    The temptations I am faced with daily on WordPress are caring about the stats, the stats, the stats! (This is directly from the pit of hell, and all followers of Jesus know it!) Whether it’s the number of followers, or visitors, or likes, or comments, it SHOULD not matter to me.

    Here’s why: Jesus explains, “Woe to you when all men speak well of you, for that is how their fathers treated the false prophets.” (Luke 6:26) “Blessed are you when men hate you, when they exclude you and insult you and reject your name as evil, because of the Son of Man. Rejoice in that day and leap for joy, for great is your reward in heaven. For that is how their fathers treated the prophets.” (Luke 6:22-23).

    Being candid, it’s probably <5% of the time that I completely resist the temptation to be encouraged or discouraged by the stats. His grace is there for me 100% of the time, but my receptivity to the discipline of the Holy Spirit is weak! Praise God, His strength is made perfect in my weakness (2 Cor. 12:9); that truth is sooo precious to me, because I am absolute weakness. My problem is that I don't KNOW that all the time! 😊

    God is faithful to keep sanctifying me, and to not let me be tempted beyond what I can bear, though. When I am tempted He will also provide a way out so that I can stand up under it (1 Cor. 10:13).

    So, long story short, stewarding the WordPress blog for God is nearly a daily challenge for me to deny self and follow Jesus! So grateful He cares so much about us to prepare Himself a spotless Bride… 😊

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    1. Thanks Deanna but it’s not that deep for me for I am fully persuaded that what I write is inspired by God. I sought him in my frustration of trying to get the gift he gave me to others last year. He answered and I blinked and he provided direction. That’s how I was able to meet bloggers like you and many others who have been a tremendous blessing to me. I had to stop being self centered as a blogger and begin to appreciate the gift of others in my journey. (I saw I was a bit selfish initially and had not clear focus on the reason I was blogging to begin with!) In Year two God gave clarity. I also know that my audience are not all believers and have been commissioned to meet people where they are for my interest is in those who don’t yet know him or are struggling in their faith due to past hurt and experiences. Someone who I know is not saved messaged me and asked how I grew my blog. I promised that I would write about it but was not felt lead to be over preachy in doing so. Everything I write doesn’t call for that but my bio is clear in whom I believe. The overall message is in order to receive don’t forget to give back in return. Some are called to craft their blogs heavy with doctrine and the word but that’s not what I have been called to do. I appreciate all the variations without compromise as I journey towards being used by the Most High in my writing and other ventures! What I have been experiencing lately is far beyond me and I can’t take any credit!😊

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      1. Grateful that He gave that calling to you, and not me! 😊 (Please understand I was sharing real talk about my temptations with WordPress with you on your blog about real talk! Sorry if I was out of line.)

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        1. I missed this one! Oh no not at all!! You are indeed on the top of my list as one of my favorite bloggers for certain! If you want you can always e-mail me. My address is on my facts about the author page (I think!) maybe another but it’s there! Lol! Genuine invitation Deanna! Thank you!

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    1. That’s great Rick! I just discovered the list feature last week! I nearly stressed myself out wondering how to stay current and not miss the posts of those bloggers I communicate with frequently. Got it now! Lol! 😄

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  13. I actually love your well articulated point. Well maybe its me or not, I usually tried to follow those points you raise. There is no point trying to raise your little kingdom, it ought to be a community.
    Personally I blog for the love of blogging not the number of followers though, that’s why I almost can be found everywhere 😀.

    Thanks for this, you are awesome

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    1. Awesome D! Love the way you expressed this as well. I do know a few who are not looking to increase numbers of readers but many are. Could not resist to write this after getting harassed it seemed by a blogger who thought I am simply on here just to read everything he posts! Give and take man! Lol!

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  14. Well articulated. I concur on so many points that you’ve made and truly our growth in this place is highly dependent on our interactions and cohesion. I truly don’t get those bloggers who feel that they have grown so big they have no time for others. Very arrogant attitude.

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