Ladies, take your man out on a date!
Now before you go frowning up at the suggestion, PLEASE note that these recommendations are for Wives only. Not girlfriends, live in chicks, fiancés or any other status not yet bound by legal matrimony!
I would never recommend a woman doing what a man should rightfully be doing for you! He should understand your value, worth and consider working on making you his “Good Thing”! (Proverbs 18:22) The courting process should never be an option!
Ok, now that I got that out the way, back to the Wives….
Before you comment to my blog with that “What you talkin bout Willis” tone, let me explain…..
My husband and I have been together for nearly a decade. I can count on one hand how many “Just Because” dates we went out on that were actually initiated by him over the course of that time. Suddenly I’m majorly frustrated. Dropping hints about who is coming to town in concert was not working. Suggestions in “By the way” conversations about a play I would like to see would go over the top. Sending text messages and e-mails during work hours of event mailing lists I subscribed to were hitting a brick wall as well. I concluded that he just wasn’t getting it and probably never will!
Last year after communicating my displeasure to him in a not so nice way I must add, I learned that he had frustrations of his own in this same area that I simply never considered. He kept it to himself and my approach pulled it out of him. The way it happened was not my intentions by far but I am glad it happened. I was left needing to repent fast! (Wives our mouths can get us in trouble big time!) THAT’S REAL TALK!
After that “minor meltdown” I took matters into my own hands. I just started dating him and we are having a complete blast!
Wives Consider this if you are facing these same frustrations with your husband:
1. Relieve you unrealistic expectations that he should be Casanova all the time.
Men don’t think like us and can easily fall into routine and get tunnel vision. They may take care of Birthdays, Anniversaries, Mother’s Day, Valentine’s Day, and Christmas but many stop there and feel their duties are fulfilled. You may have to pick up the pieces in order to keep your relationship fun and fresh!
2. Get what you want, when you want, every time!
Don’t you hate it when someone does something for you that you really don’t like. Having to grin and bear it so that you won’t hurt their feelings and down play their efforts can be painful. If you take charge of the date nights you get to choose and get what you want! Movies, concerts, plays, bowling, museums, couples night, stay in or go out. Its all up to you!
3. The Sky’s the limits – you set the frequency and have control! Weekly, monthly, quarterly, etc.
I have been dating my husband now on a regular for the past 6 months. I try to implement a mandatory date night at least monthly. I tell him what we are doing, where we are going, who we will be with; date and time. He entertains me by going along with the plans and finds himself pleasantly surprised by how much fun we have together! It really has been awesome! By the way, I think I secretly get a serious thrill out of the control aspect of this thing and telling him what to do! It’s about the only time I can get him into the “Yes Dear” mode! LOL! (Sorry Honey!) HAPPY WIFE/HAPPY LIFE!
These times are just about us! It’s an investment in the health of our marriage and reminder that fun does not end at the alter. We are creating memories and breaking up the mundane routine of life by making fun a requirement! It does a world of good to forget about problems, bills, the kids, work and any other pressures for a few hours and reconnect as a couple on a regular basis.