The term “Diva” has seemed to evolve in description overtime. Originally it was used to define a talented female performer or actress that has reached a certain level of fame. Established popularity grants this labeled woman the right to conduct herself anyway she pleases in attitude, expression and otherwise. Her temperament is sometimes edgy, arrogant and disrespectful; however her undeniable talent overshadows demeanor thus publically accepted by the majority as suitable for the title. Because of their very public lives, the conduct of these women reflects a desperate pursuit to continuously reinvent themselves in order to remain industry and generationally relevant.
An expanded and more admirable definition of a “Diva” is a woman who exudes a healthy sense of self-confidence and self-respect. She commands a room upon entry and people gravitate towards her because of her assurance. She knows exactly what she wants, where she is going and has an idea of how she will get there. (When she is not sure she will fake it until she makes it!) She is talented, beautiful and awe-inspiring in style and personality. A well put together woman with class and swagger. She is often desired and admired by both women and men alike.
When considering a preference of which definition of “Diva” I personally prefer and respect, it would be the latter over the initial. I would add a critical element which I will discuss later in this post.
Notable Diva Mentions: All fabulously talented women indeed!
60’s & 70’s
The message our society trends about being a “Diva” today has become relatively shallow. Our youth, especially those easily influenced bear the brunt of those consequences. They mostly define the term as women who have a lot of glitter, glamour, fortune and fame. The Fabulous Life is the image they pursue and portray. They typically flaunt trivial items such as designer clothes, jewelry, stilettos, hair extensions, and flawless air brushed makeup; illustrating the image of ageless perfection. The “All eyes on me” mentality, promotes the mindset of admiration with a hint of envy which ultimately stimulates the need to mock in their young followers. This can be dangerous territory on the reality of life, what is important, establishing strong self-esteem and a healthy self-image; more so for those who are without guiding mentors.
“Divas” themselves know that the lifestyle can so be short and constantly threatened. There is always the upcoming or competitive “Diva” on the tails of the aging seeking to dominate and take over the spotlight. This is just the circle of the life style and never ends.
Have you ever considered a “Diva” in the height of her day? Fast forward 10-20 years and she is not as in demand as she use to be. Then a young lady seems to emerge out of no where and takes over the throne. The once popular “Diva” cuts an eye silently stating, “Who does she think she is?”. Her words express admiration for the new comer when asked but her body language tells an entirely different story. The aging Diva ultimately fades off into the sunset, making periodic appearances acting as if she is still at the height of her reign for she knows no other way to be. I bet you can name a few that you have seen this happen to; But it doesn’t have to be that way.
A “Diva” can remain one in mind, body and spirit at any stage and age of her life as long as she has the right perspective. The circle of new comers will never stop. Instead of viewing this fact as a threat it should be seized as opportunity. New inexperienced “Divas” typically show a hint of similar talents held by their predecessors. They were inspired by them before they came on the scene and probably watched and studied them intensely to perfect their own talent. A REAL “Diva” would make the most out of this and show true class by mentoring. The young need the experienced to show them the way. Otherwise they are at risk of repeating critical mistakes that could have been avoided had others not sat back and watched in bitterness because their time is winding down.
A respected “Diva” will strive to leave an unselfish legacy. Impart wisdom and experiences on those that are following in their traveled paths. Competing ,judging and passing the baton bitterly is not the answer. If it’s not passed willingly, it will get snatched regardless. Why not let go with class and allow your name to live on positively? I believe that lending a helping hand as the youth themselves journey towards maturity is the icing on the cake of a true, confident and secure “Diva”.